friday five: steubenville

Friday, March 22, 2013

When a community responds to injustice together, there are a lot more options for the marginalized and abused.” – Shane Claiborne

Everybody was writing about Steubenville this week, and there were many articles that just flat out made me mad. Here’s three of the ones that made me think without infuriating me:

Steubenville High School football players found guilty of raping 16-year-old girl - Dan Wetzel: A culture of arrogance created a group mindset of debauchery and disrespect, of misplaced manhood and lost morality.

After Steubenville: 25 Things our Sons Need to Know about Manhood - Ann Voskamp: Son. When the prevailing thinking is boys will be boys — girls will be garbage. And that is never the heart of God.

Dianna Anderson on Rape Culture and Victim Blaming - Rachel Held Evans' blog: Rape culture is the idea that we live in a culture that condones and endorses rape.

The other side of this story was that was just so horrifying to me is ho the victim’s friends turned on her. Paraphrasing some of the quotes I read: ‘oh, she drinks all the time. oh, she’s a liar. oh, this isn’t the boys’ fault – look at our skanky friend.’

Ladies, can we teach our daughters to live a better story than this one? Sure, women need to protect themselves, but if they don’t, that doesn’t mean they deserve to be raped and victimized again and again in the media and amongst their friends. I want my daughters to respect themselves enough that they don’t view themselves solely in relationship to men. I want my daughters to have self-worth, to have a voice, to have friends they can trust. That’s work that starts right now.

Telling our Daughter (and Sisters) They Have a Voice - Sarah Markley: Begin to whisper into your baby-girl’s ears that the words she will someday speak are important. Rock your too-big kindergartener on your lap for a moment and say to her that her words matter. Tell your twelve-year-old to write the novel that has been burning a hole in her heart.  And encourage your sisters to speak out, to use the words that they have and to not be afraid of what will come out when they open their mouths.

ShePonders: Mean Words - Kelley Nikondeha for shelovesmagazine.com:
Together we are fighting against injustice in its infancy. We refuse to let mean words marginalize the playground … or anywhere else our sons and daughters roam.

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