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Friday, September 16, 2011

Time since the adoption was finalized has been less than exciting. Brenden has been quite, well, I'm not quite sure how to describe it. It's very much like when he first came to live with us. We've been through worse times, but it has definitely been better. Actually, the good times are far better than they've ever been, but there is just so much difficulty. I don't know if he's angry, grieving, uncertain...he doesn't have all the language to explain himself right now. Even if he did, I'm not sure he could put words to the feelings.

Today, I read through some materials and case notes about the kids’ past. Stuff I didn't want to know. I'm not sure how helpful it was to have this info. I'm torn over what to do with it now. I don't think all of it is appropriate for our children to know, even as adults. Some of it is just not their story. It's because they were part of a sibling group that we have extra info, and I'm conflicted over what to keep - the parts that are their story, the parts I have no right to hide, and what parts we should toss - the parts that don't directly involve them, the parts that are really private for others. I would never keep private something directly involving them, but the other stuff? Any advice from other adoptive/fostering mamas out there?

I’m really thankful to be looking forward to the conference we’re attending this next week.  Show Hope is sponsoring the Empowered to Connect conference. Dr. Karyn Purvis, who wrote The Connected Child, will be speaking – I’m pretty sure I have already written about what a rock star this woman is, but thinking about hearing her voice again is making me quite pleased. If you or anyone you know is fostering/adopting/head of a church orphan ministry or even just thinking about doing any of those things, it’s still not too late to sign up (although they are approaching a sell-out). It’s cheap, and you won’t be sorry. It’s my personal opinion that this material should be required of every single person who fosters, adopts, or works with people who have. In fact, I believe SO strongly in this event that if you or someone you personally know wants to go and can’t afford it, we will cover your registration costs. Sign up here and definitely contact me if you’re going – I would love to meet up!

Empowered to Connect Nashville 2011

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