one training session and two psa's

Monday, January 5, 2009

Tonight was our first night of training, which we did in Greene County since they are apparently sharing training sessions now so that each session can be fuller. There was a full house tonight, about 16-17 people or so. Most of them were couples, although there was a single older lady and a younger (25-ish is my best guess) single girl as well. I'm excited about doing the rest of our training, since our teacher (Maggie) was very personable and quite funny. I was expecting something much more dry and clinical than what we got tonight, and I was really thankful to be wrong. Another couple there, also going through Clark county, is at an almost identical point in their process as we are. I was encouraged that we have people to talk to while we do this process. If all goes well, we'll be ready and licensed by the end of February, maybe even a little sooner.

I came away still fairly nervous about the process...not the licensing process, but what happens when we actually accept a child. I have SO many questions still about how it will work in a very practical sense. I feel like we understand the legal and red-tape aspect of it ok, but the one thing that we don't know (and I'm not even sure that anyone will be able to tell us) is how it will work when we actually bring a child home. Hopefully the next few weeks will give us some help with that though.

We also got an answer to prayer today as Wendell does not have to go on the business trip that would have caused him to miss one of the sessions. That would have potentially put us 2-3 months behind in the process. We could use continued prayer that nothing will come up that will cause us to have to wait for the next session to complete our training.

A couple of lessons from this evening...public service announcements, if you will.
1) The iphone GPS/navigational app is very very poor. That, and I don't know how to use an iphone very well. It doesn't have any directional capabilities, so if you want the directions to be going in the same direction you are, you have to continually rotate the phone around so it looks like you are going the right way. Fortunately, we made it there ok. Also, if you are using said application and it asks you if you want to drop a pin, say no! It is not going to do what you think it is. I'm not sure what it means or why it dropped pins all over (probably had something to do with me clicking yes, yes, yes), but DO NOT drop the pin.

2) If you are a man, live in Ohio, and are prone to having sex...you should register with the Putative Father Registry. If you do not register, yet somehow father a child with someone who is not your wife, this registry will protect your paternal rights. Apparently, after every "encounter", shall we say, you should just go ahead and register with this government database. It will require that you put your name and the name of the woman with whom you have had relations, as well as the date of said relations. If you do not register and at some point wish to prove paternity or take custody of your child, the courts will apparently not look favorably upon this failure to document your relations.

To summarize your responsibilities...say you've had sex. With a woman capable of childbearing.
Ask yourself these questions:
  • Am I married to the woman I just had sex with?
  • Am I certain that I am going to be with this woman forever?
  • Did we use birth control correctly (or at all)?
If the answers to any of these questions are no, then I encourage you to visit the Putative Father Registry of Ohio at http://jfs.ohio.gov/pfr/. Your children may depend on it. This concludes my public service announcement.

3 comments:

  1. Wow...I didn't know you all were considering adoption. I hope all goes well! I'm sure it will be a challenging experience even to receive a child with all the legal stuff!

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  2. that was from me, Jeanne...sorry...but I can only seem to leave anonymous comments!

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  3. I'm glad things are going well so far, we'll be praying for you guys as you continue the process. Also, thank you for th psa's. I will be sure to pass along the information. :-)

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